If you have the standard XPD3 switches, you can't do that. You need scene-capable switches. I have the XPD3's & I have to press & hold the dim or bright buttons on my Harmony 659. I think the IR543 is okay, but I'm not sure.
You can use other switches that can have the ramp up time adjusted - see this thread:
[Link: remotecentral.com]That way, you could press ON & the light would ramp up slowly.
Bill E. in this forum gave me a lot of advice. He runs the smarthome.com website, which will have everything you need.