Answering your question on control of everything.

You'll want to pick one of the capable programmable RF remotes. Depending on your taste for More Hard Buttons vs. Fully Configurable Touchscreen, you can go several ways.

If you like lots of Hard Buttons, the MX-850 would fill the bill, with the added RF unit. For a Fully Configurable Touchscreen, the ProntoPro TSU6000 with its RF accessory is equally nice. You can't go wrong with either... just depends on your preference!

There are plenty of other choices if your budget doesn't allow those, look for a unit that supports an RF bridge.